Anyone whose ever read anything about being in a relationship with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder has no doubt heard of love bombing. If you’ve never been the recipient of it, below is what it looks like. He certainly has a way with words. And when you read through this and think to yourself, “How could anyone be stupid enough to think all this was for real?”, believe me when you’re in the midst of it, your reason is out the window. There are chemicals in the brain involved. It is, literally, like being on a drug. You become addicted to the person, to the roller coaster ride. Even when you logically know every step of the way that you’re diving deeper into a nightmare, you do it anyway. As a sidenote, I’m not suggesting Macuiltochtli has NPD. I used to think he was BPD, and we even discussed this possibility – he mentioned it himself. But I’m not a professional, so I hesitate to suggest any diagnosis. Additionally, he is deep in a 26+ year addiction to meth and alcohol, and I don’t think any diagnosis is possible as long as he’s actively using. Addiction basically mimics a personality disorder, so who knows who this boy really is underneath all that. The moments I have seen him without the drugs and alcohol, he honestly has been a dream. Not the over the top love bombing dream you see below, but a normal, albeit highly troubled, sensitive caring individual. But who knows if it was real. Who knows if any of it was real…
Love Bombing…
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Thankyou for this post. I’ve heard of it and guessed how it would go but seeing it in writing its more intense than I had a notion of
I have just realized this week this person is me. A life of 2 year relationships that collapse. Sometimes only one year. I’m commenting to just say one thing from my experience. I’m not a bad person. I never set out to manipulate or control anyone. I guess I never learned how to live? I can’t figure it out. Maybe I learned from movies or tv. It goes fast. Grand gestures. Over the top acts and words. Super intimate mentally and sexually. Like a raging fire early. Intense.
Now after learning of love bombing I see my entire life has been this. And while my relationship partners have certainly been victims of it, so have I.
I don’t know any better. I guess I don’t understand anything about relationships or love. I’m now almost 50 and I see why it’s never worked out. It was never real. It felt real to me tho. It was never an intentional act.
I am mentally damaged. I don’t know what to do from here. I’m so confused. And alarmed.
I don’t even know what else to say. I feel empty and void inside. Like I’m not even a real person.
I feel you, Bart. The thing is, nothing is ever one sided. I know that beneath all the trauma bonding and addiction and mental and emotional health issues, Mac is a good guy. And now that I can touch these memories from a bit more distance, I believe he did believe and feel everything he said in the moment he said them. I have no doubt of that. And I have my own very deep issues that caused me to be attracted to the very deep issues in him. It’s a dance. I recommend looking into attachment theory and finding a therapist who specializes in same. Wish you good luck.
Wow got you